Ask a Handsome Man to Explain His Favourite War to You
And other Girl-Game Advice on How to be a Lovely Young Lady
It is a fact universally known that to make a many fall in love with you, after making yourself pretty, is to ask him about his favourite war. The male psyche simply cannot resist the opportunity to re-live battles and triumphs in his head while he speaks to a pretty girl batting her eyelashes at him as if he were Alfred the Great himself, recalling his campaigns. But why does this work?
I recently posted this piece of advice and it got a considerable amount of attention with hundreds of men saying this would work on them.
And what is the secret idea here that applies to all sorts of other little tricks to gaining male affection that have nothing to do with short dresses and a perfect body? Let us discuss.
It is no great feat to get a man to desire you carnally. However, to make a man love you and to make him want to start a family with you and give you his eternity, his legacy and his heart and soul, requires a very different skill-set. In fact, this very same skill-set is not only useful when getting a man to love you, but also to keep his affection for the years and decades we spend together on this mortal plane.
We begin by examining the male psyche.
The male psyche is one that desires, above all else, respect and admiration. Whereas women want to feel inherently valuable, men want to feel useful. They want to feel intelligent, generous, powerful and respectable. To get a man to love you is to make him feel like this in your presence. And the secret to making this possible is that, when a man is already intelligent, generous, powerful and respectable, it really isn’t that hard to do!
If he’s intelligent, you already want to learn from him. If he’s generous, you will automatically wish to show gratitude. If he is powerful and respectable, you will not be compelled to disrespect him by any means. But if he isn’t any of these things and you are pretending, it is a worthless endeavour because why would you ever want to devote your life to such a person or supplicate their personality delusions? Feigning admiration for an un-admirable man is the prerogative of sales-women and the focus of my writing here is on the subject of something eternal and far more precious than the profit of sales.
My prerogative in my writing is to expound upon those ideas that help us find and nurture true love, and to not fumble it with our horrible fallen-ness on the rare occasions when it comes our way in this life.
Where girls get it wrong:
Nevertheless, many women still somehow fumble even when faced with an admirable man because they either treat the man as if he were another girl-friend, or they try to compete with him as if she were another man. She may have too much ego to admit when he has taught her something new or to even stop to listen to him. She may be too self-centred to even let him speak. She may be too proud to be grateful when he is generous. She may be too uncouth and rude to be respectful. She may behave like a man and then put him off entirely because such admirable men are not attracted to other men or anyone who behaves like one. Being “one of the guys” is the worst thing you could possibly do.
Another way women get it wrong is that they are batting their eyelashes at the wrong sort of man. A man who is emotionally checked out, stupid, or spiritually numbed, will not respond to any kind of girl-game whatsoever. To bake cookies and listen doe-eyed to a man who, on a fundamental level, isn’t attracted to you or isn’t worth respecting is a foolish waste of cookies.
So let us not bury the lede any further; why does asking a man about his favourite war work?