How to tell if you have Mommy Issues
How to prevent them, how to fix them
Mothers and Fathers are different and provide distinct but equally crucial forms of love to their children, especially to their daughters. The second name of love when it comes to children, is discipline, and unfortunately, not every parent is a good parent.
Many people talk about daddy issues in girls which are defined as self destructive behaviours resulting from an absent or weak father in the girl’s life growing up. Some people believe these self destructive behaviours are being promiscuous with men, dressing provocatively for male attention or being attracted to dangerous men who treat her poorly. While these behaviours are self destructive, these are actually not daddy issues. They are mommy issues.
As a father models masculinity for his son, a mother models femininity for her daughter. As such, the mother’s attitude toward femininity helps to shape her daughter’s attitude as well. As a father’s treatment of his daughter determines her relationship to men as well, but in a different way than the mother does. Daddy issues describe a girl who has issues surrendering to and trusting a man. Mommy issues describe a girl who has issues believing she is worthy of good treatment from a man at all.
Why? In order to understand this we must delve into what exactly the natural role of the mother and the father are for a girl’s upbringing. We must delve into the precise psychology of how a little girl grows up to understand where things can go seriously wrong.
The psychology of the maturation of a little girl